Author Archives: Heidi Blackstun, MSW, LCSW, MBA

I have more than 23 years of experience providing counseling services in both rural and urban areas. I am passionate about my career, thus making it extremely fulfilling to see people learn positive coping skills as well as accomplish personal growth.

Minimizing the Pain for Children During the Divorce Process

Parents often see their children upset, angry, withdrawn, and/or tearful after weekend visitation.  They believe after such a negative and painful reaction by their children, they should stop seeing the child due to the fact that they are unable to stand it any longer. The truth is, it is natural for children to not want […]

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Mediation: Parenting Plans

Marital resentments from the past – such as, who caused the separation and/or divorce; who left and why; hurt and anger regarding the other man/woman; disappointment; the desire to reconcile — all have nothing to do with the children and need to be dealt with separately.  Mixing past marital issues with present parenting issues is […]

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How to Recognize Whether You Should Change Your Job

Many people are unhappy with their jobs, but how is job dissatisfaction measured?  Using the Personal Performance Model every evening for the next three weeks, ask yourself the following three questions: Have to.  To what extent are my current tasks being imposed on me or demanded of me? Able to.  To what extent do my […]

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Are You Living in the Here and Now?

We’ve always been told to live in the here and now, but why? Non-judgmental questions to ask yourself:  how much time do you spend thinking about the past, how much about the here and now, and how much about the future?  In other words, how much of your time is devoted to thinking wistfully or […]

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How to Get to Know Yourself

Behavior traits and tendencies are good things to be aware of when it comes to knowing one’s self.  The Uffe Elbaek’s public opinion barometer is a good starting point.  Keep in mind that you will be subject to these four perspectives: how you see yourself how you would like to see yourself how others see […]

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