Author Archives: Heidi Blackstun, MSW, LCSW, MBA

I have more than 23 years of experience providing counseling services in both rural and urban areas. I am passionate about my career, thus making it extremely fulfilling to see people learn positive coping skills as well as accomplish personal growth.

Advantages When Parents Choose to Cooperate During/After Divorce:

There are many advantages when parents choose to work together on raising their children after divorce. children have fewer problems more personal satisfaction and less frustration for parents visitations goes much better fewer child-support issues reduced possibility of returning to court it is easier to share responsibility better parent-child relationships less conflict and more often […]

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What Parental Cooperation Does Not Mean:

Once again, when parents cooperate during or after a divorce, it creates an environment where children feel safe, satisfied, and loved. Cooperation does not mean: pumping your children for information about the other parent controlling or trying to control the other parent (as this is usually done by using the child) using the children as […]

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How to Cooperate in Raising the Children After Divorce

Bottom-line, in order for your child to cope with the process of divorce, it requires cooperation between you and the other parent.  Cooperation means: establish a parenting plan which gives access to both parents parents keep ongoing contact with the children so they don’t feel rejected or abandoned parents prepare the children prior to the […]

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Creating a Conflict-Free Zone for Your Child During/After Divorce

It is important for parents to know, if their children are going to succeed after divorce, it is their job to protect the children from parental conflict and allow them to enjoy close relationships with both parents.  A buffer zone, away from the conflict free zone where the child and parents interact remains neutral, where […]

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To Determine Your Future, First Understand Your Past

When we make strategic decisions, we tend to focus on the future.  Our dreams are projected into the future, our hopes fulfilled in those dreams, and so on. We do this because we believe we can determine our future.  What we tend to forget is, every future has a past, and that past is the […]

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